You’ve heard the advice to “pick your battles.” This advice is especially helpful for communicating important advice with your senior loved ones.
No one likes to be nagged or pushed into doing something. People like to come to decisions on their own, and often do not want to change their minds.
Of course there are probably numerous changes you believe your loved ones should make. However, when it comes to suggestions like your parents updating their phone, joining a fitness club, or canceling their cable, or any other helpful but nonessential task, it is often best to leave those decisions to them.
Instead, when giving your parents advice, focus on the most important issues. Matters that involve their safety and health should be the priority in these discussions.
It is also wise to space out your suggestions instead of giving them all at the same time. Doing this can make your loved ones feel bombarded and defensive. Choose your timing wisely and you are more likely to have a positive, productive conversation.